 Grand Prize
 Name: Ha Young Chung
Grade: 9
Attending Branch: Woodside Main
Topic:
People usually become parents without any training. Some people are naturally good parents while others have to work at it. Based on your own experience as a son or daughter think of three rules parents should follow to be good mother. Write an essay that explains the three most important rules of parenting from a son or daughter's perspective.
Essay:
When the word "parents" comes to mind, one usually associates the word with loving people in a homely atmosphere. Parents are influential people who love their children beyond the depths of the human heart. They are not usually considered "bad"; they are generally considered as "good" caring people, since parenthood comes naturally. However, just like everything else in the world, absolutely nothing is perfect. Therefore, even good parents have flaws. Having parents myself, I realize that parenting is not an easy task and that those flaws are inevitable. However, from a daughter's perspective, there are there major principles parents must follow: comprising, allowing freedom for their children, and most importantly, loving their children. Comprising in parenthood is not the same as in business dealerships. It does not deal with money, pay-backs, or reparations. Persistent parents only accomplish to push their children further and further away from them, failing to develop a close relationship. So, when a child asks to go out and come back at midnight, the parent shouldn't dismiss the case with a stubborn "no" like that of a totalitarian government, but should expand more on the conversation and meet the child halfway. The parent must compromise and come to an agreement that suits both the parent and the child. Without compromising, the child develops a reluctance to ask for advice, to give his/her view on situations, or sadly, even talk. This prevents the usual parent-child connection, which does not allow the parent to become a good one. Parents should not always deluge their children with schoolwork. Although that is a major priority of a parent, to be an active member in a child's school life, too much pressure and pushing can be damaging. Parents should allow a set time for their children to do whatever they wish to do outside the boundaries of education. From experience, when I am constantly told to study, do homework, review, read, preview, the stress is too much to handle. As a result, every time something school-related come up, there is a big dreadful spirit inside of me which only continues to grow as my parents lecture me. To relieve this stress, I, the child must spend time away from study and the parent should support this as strongly as they do education. Allowing freedom for their children provides a more balanced and healthier lifestyle. The final requirement of a good parent is unconditional love. Love essential and defines the being of a good parent. Certainly, love is always there from the moment parents hold their body in their arms to the time they quickly mature and run off to college. A parent's love should not be kept a secret and should reveal itself whenever possible, for children are only within parents' grasp for a short time. Parents should not stop themselves from calling them, checking to see how they are, or telling them those three heartfelt words: "I love you". All actions should be based on this profound love, both the good and the bad. Parents should love their children more than all the shining gems in the world, more than any sum of money, more than anything. This priceless love is the key to being not a good parent, but a great one. Three major guidelines to becoming a good parent are compromising, allowing free time, and never ceasing to love. Though parenthood come naturally, reinforcing these three rules can do only good.
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